Now, i’m sure i’m about to offend the people who’s sole income that they put food on the table is to specialize in these jobs so for that I am super sorry but JESUS CHRIST I didn’t understand how much was involved with planning a wedding and paying for everything.
“Couldnt we just text them? Babe I really don’t think the boys are going to care about a fancy bit of paper”
“JUST PICK A FUCKING WEIGHT AND TEXTURE OF PAPER OR YOU WON’T SEE ME NAKED FOR A LONG TIME”
Now obviously invites were a given but you have to consider save the date cards, the information card, the RSVP, the envelope, invite pockets.. there is so many! A simple invite can go from 75 pence per invite to £5.75 very quickly. Multiply that by 100 and you’re talking some real cheddar. we bought save the dates at a bargain price of £17 and I went to buy the stamps for them and they were £40!
My advice? shop around! Look for a good price and always take in consideration the price of postage. Also even though you have 4 guests (2 adults + 2 children) they all live in one house so that is 1 invite!
I went to a wedding and they didn’t even have them. Did I care? no. Did I love that my wine glass was constantly filled? hell yeah! Moral? put your money where you want it.
I’ve been to tons of weddings the amount of money that gets spend on little chocolates in organza bags or little seashells which always get left behind! I see tons of companies advertising favours for as little as £2.99 each but my god multiply by 100 and again its another huge bill.
For my wedding I *am* having favours and we are giving all the adults a shot each and all the children personalised drink bottles for squash. 1 to save parents buying tons of bloody fruit shoots and 2 it’s a nice little keepsake for them that I know they’ll appreciate. My friend did this and it was a hit!
In the words of Anna WIllatt (@sixpence_bridal) “FUCK CHAIR COVERS”
It’s as if venues work closely with chair cover companies by having ugly chairs so that you HAVE to have white covers and sashes on them to make them look better. Now £2.50 per chair doesn’t sound to bad does it? All together now MULTIPLY IT.
Personally i’m getting in chiavari chairs and it was honestly one of the key selling points for me. Each to their own but spending extra of frilly shit on the back of my chair was not top of my priority list.
Again, the whole event is TO GET MARRIED DUH but to get a registrar out and for all the legal bits (bands being read etc) its costing us just out of £900 because of the date. One Saturday I got a phone call whilst I was at one of Delilahs school friends party so I nipped out to take it and it was the registrar from my local council. When she told me the cost my mouth dropped to the floor.
When looking for venues consider;
- If they even hold wedding ceremonies and if not find your local church/registry hall
- If the can hold a legal marriage. My friend is getting married in a barn and having a “wedding” in front of friends and family then separately going to the registry office. This means they can personalise it and make it as special as possible!
- The cost of the ceremony and what it includes. We got quoted the church for £400 but then there was extras for example to have the heating on would cost an additional £50, for having music played down the aisle was another £20, £100 for choir. I’m not even joking i was ridiculous.
- Check if you can add speakerss, singers, personal vows etc as some venues don’t allow it. It might be the special additions that you feel passionately about that they wont allow.
- If it’s exactly what you want. Dont settle for a ceremony at a church because that’s what great granny Dorris says you HAVE to have. If you want something more intimate/personal do it your way! My brother and sister in law got married at the registry office with just the best man and bridesmaid then they came to the venue after and everyone celebrated then. It worked out pretty amazing I thought! In my brother in laws words “everyone just wants the fun bit!”.
I can’t even believe this has made the list but my GOODNESS is it when you look into it. Pre wedding i’d of said a couple of quid maybe a tenner max HAHAHA roll on confetti shopping and I’m reading an email from a company who had quoted me £156.50 for 90 people. That’s without cones or bags for them. Just the teeny paper shapes that get thrown on the floor. FFS.
I bought 4 packs of tissue paper (99p from Card Factory), pinstripe candy bags (99p for 100 on ebay) and 100 personalised stickers (£4.50 from Etsy). I cut it all into squares but if I wanted to push the boat out and get a heart, butterfly etc hole punch I could of done but we wasn’t fussed. We mainly wanted rainbow confetti for the photographs. Total cost? £9.45, time took? 3 hours (whilst watching netflix with coffee and cake), money saved? £147.05! JOB DONE.
Not essential but if you’re having a bridal shower, hen do, night before wedding dinner etc you wanna look good especially as the bride! There are so many online boutiques with cheap dress and discount codes the options are endless! Always search for a discount code, borrow a mates student ID/uni days or if not ask for one!
That cheeky three lettered middle finger.
Don’t forget to ask EVERY vendor. It always crops up and it’s a ball ache by racking up the price.
It is really important to send thank you notes to everyone came and their gifts. I do it for my daughters parties so I should 100% do it for my wedding. We have friends coming from New York for goodness sake they deserve thanking alone for the 10 hour flight! But also the special people like your parents who footed the bill (thanks again ma and pa) and the bridesmaid who held your dress up to pee!
MEALS ON THE DAY
We are having a late wedding so there is still breakfast and lunch to make sure we cover too. Make up and hair are arriving from 7:30 so it’s all GO GO GO until then. I will probably get breakfast early from our hotel and maybe bring a few picnic bits in the room for everyone to graze on (and soak up the pinotpinot cans!).
With all this spending make sure you enjoy it!