New year, same old me #3

New year, same old me #3

Guys hold the bloody phone! I’ve only gone and done it haven’t I?! This is my 3rd year of a New Years resolution post. If you’re one of them negative people who hates this sort of thing then this blog ain’t for you (girl, bye) but I like a clean slate for the year to try better so here are mine that I will (probably not) stick too;

Clean eating, less meat! Cliche and all but I want to loose a stone (which when you are plus size isn’t a lot) to feel a bit more comfortable. My Christmas bod isn’t comfy in jeans and honestly all the cheese and prosecco has ruined my skin and hair. I can always feel when I’m run down and need to get my shit together because I get cold sores. Equally I’m cutting the meat out entirely! I was a vegetarian for ages but slowly introduced it back into my diet but my body hates it and I always fill stodgy and gross after.

I’m ACTUALLY going to get the kids into school on time and pick them. I’m terrible, I know! This really should just be a given but I’m awful in the mornings and trying to get yourself and two unruly humans out the bloody door is near on impossible! I only forgot to pick her up once but in her first term of school that’s really bad.

All my tips are going into a jar for spending money for our honeymoon! I say I’m going to keep my tips but I always end up using it for bog roll or something. How life has changed because when I was a junior I’d save my tips from hair washing to buy my booze on Saturday night. Now it’s baby wipes, coffees or a bottle of wine for the very testing of days. That being a Tuesday and I don’t know why but Delilah comes home ridiculously tired so is therefore a mardy cow!

I’m going to clear my wardrobe out once and for all. I’m never getting back into my size 10 clothes pre pregnancy. I say this all the time but I’m sick of yelling “I have nothing to wear!” Because I do have things to wear I just can’t find them when my wardrobe is consumed with 2013 hot pants and dresses. Maybe even invest in some IKEA type storage or something you know? Fact: my Nans wardrobe is fantastic with colour coordination, neatly folded jumpers, the works!

I will read a new book every month. I need to get off of Netflix god damn it! I just love getting into a series you know?

Paddys New Year resolution is to loose weight he says because he feels uncomfortable too. Honestly all we have done is EAT!

Here’s to a great year. 2019 is our year, I’ve decided. Plus we are getting married and that’s fully fledged grounds for it right?! It’s also the year of the pig (my birth year animal!).

⁃ Fifi x

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Prepping’ for Camp Bestival

Prepping’ for Camp Bestival

Can you believe it?! How is it December?!
I’m 100% a summer girl. I can’t stand being cold, I hate the wet dark weather and I don’t drive so our days are limited. I want to be out in the court yard sunning it up whilst the kids are splashing in the pool and eating lollies again. Most importantly I want to be drinking cans of prosecco with my best blogger pals dancing to Big Fish Little Fish family rave in a tent wearing everything glittery at Camp Bestival. We had such an amazing summer! Fast forward to now stressing about how long I have to roast a turkey for, wrapping up scooters and constantly feeling like it’s night time is not what I’m about.
So I’m planning our festival trip already for another fabulous summer. If you have children the Camp Bestival is the most family friendly festival in the UK over the last weekend of July (25th-28th) set on the grounds of Lulworth Castle in Dorset.
2019 is set to be bigger and better than ever with a Heroes V Superheroes I’m already planning outfits with capes.
Whilst the line up has some very big names booked in. I can’t wait to see Jess Glynne and Mel Bs 90s mixtape is a dream come too for any 90s kid right? There’s also a part of me dying to see Mr Tumble and check out the CBeebies bedtime tent. All these little details with children in mind is what makes festivals still possible (tiny voice inside your head- “you ARE still cool Sophie”). I’d given up hope of cool summers spent having a laugh, drinking cocktails and dancing to music in a field but after having kids that dream was a bit dead and buried but my youth was lifted again and I learned that family holidays don’t have to be a caravan club.

The details?

The Camping Bestival 2019 Monthly Payment Plan is on sale now. Use our 7 month payment plan to spread the total cost of your tickets over seven monthly instalments. Book online via Ticketmaster online.
Ticket prices are as followed;
Adult Weekend Ticket – £180*
Student Weekend Ticket – £175*
Age 13 to 17 Weekend Ticket – £114*
Age 10 to 12 Weekend Ticket – £90*
Age 5 to 9 Weekend Ticket – £31.50*
Age 4 & Under Weekend Ticket – £11*
Babes in Arms (1 & Under) – FREE (but ticket required)*
*All weekend tickets include access to the general campsites from Thursday to Monday *Please refer to the Camp Bestival Ticket Terms & Conditions.
Camping Plus and backstage tickets are now also available to buy, here.
Car Parking – £20 in advance
Campervan Ticket (Field A) – £90
Caravan / Trailer Tent Ticket (Field A) – £100
Festival Programme Pack – £10 (reserve your festival programme pack to collect on site at the festival)

Check out their fab promo video here!

https://youtu.be/ljveHrE4Lco

Just a little Indi update

Just a little Indi update

Usually I’m a phone addict. I love Instagram and blogging our life (and I think you guys do too?!) but recently it’s taken a back seat.

Firstly because I got a BPD diagnosis which had taken some adjustments especially medication wise. I’ve also gone back to work after 2 years and it’s helped massively! That time I have to myself, even to wee, is pure bliss.

Secondly (and more importantly) there’s been some area of concern with Indiana. It’s hard not to compare him to other children especially his friends who are similar age to him because everyone develops differently. However there are some signs that there was just too much to ignore:

• His speech is at the same level as a 7 month- 1 year old not at a 2.5 years old. He’s never once said “mama” or “mummy” or “love you”.

• He won’t acknowledge his name when called

• Constant smacking himself

• Hyper-activeness and aggression

• He’s slept through possible 4 times in his entire life

• He will only watch Paw Patrol (internal screaming) and specifically likes Chase, no other pup will do!

• He rarely ever interacts with other children and struggles massively! He’s only just shared a toy for the first time the other week and baby group which almost made me cry.

For a long while I just thought I was an awful mum, why was my child so naughty? Why can’t my kids get on well like others I know? Why does everyone so obviously dislike him?

I struggled so much. Why was he such hard work?! Why don’t I enjoy parenting as much as I should. I knew I needed more help so got in contact with our local health visitor and she arranged a visit and I expressed my concerns. That’s when she suggested that she thought he was autistic.

If you’ve ever been through the process you will know the assessment is a score sheet (which Indiana scored very high on) and it’s been a tough road but we are starting to get help. Without the help of my friends Vanessa and Joely I’d be really clueless and they just GETs it you know? It might help others but for me every time I see an account that’s with the username ‘@superautismmummy’ or ‘@autismmumsdoitbetter’ it drives me mad! It’s not a unique selling point for a blog. I’m down for the cool mums who also happen to have children with disabilities and I won’t let that define me as a mum. Each to their own of course.

Meltdown

Autism is a spectrum and every child is different. He’s taught us to love without words which is truly magic. That’s just what makes him that little bit more special. Not ‘needs’ just special.

Hyper episode

From time to time I will write about it because it’s all new to us and I feel like I can put a raw, honest and genuine angle on it. I’m also free for any support that might be needed! It’s also important to add that it’s a long road to getting an official diagnosis. It hasn’t either been confirmed it’s autism or ADHD or even something else but we will always care for him.

Peace-

Fifi

Xoxo

3 generations of dumpy hairless boys

Brigits Bakery afternoon tea tour bus- review

Brigits Bakery afternoon tea tour bus- review

One day I was at the coach station and I saw this fabulous big red bus pull up and it looked fabulous compared to the coach I was going to be getting on (a three hour slog back to Dover *shudder*). I later discovered it was the Bs bakery tour bus with afternoon tea. There’s only one woman in this world who loves afternoon tea more than me and that is my Nan! So I booked us in and invited her which she was really thrilled about bless her.

We got there 20 minutes early (as requested) and boarded the shiny red bus on the top deck where our gorgeous tea was laid out. Our fantastic tour guide was fabulous and attentive with topping up our prosecco and tea/coffee. To support #BreastCancerAwarenessMonth all teas are pink themed and Brigits Bakery are donating £1 of every ticket sale to the Pink Ribbon Foundation who support breast cancer patients.

Unfortunately the microphone wasn’t working so we missed out on the tour but my Nan (a true Londoner) wasn’t bothered. We still got to see all the fabulous tourist spots and even saw the changing of the guide. I just like seeing the good shopping points and seeing if I could spot a cheeky celeb or two.

They made up for it by lots of bubbly and letting us keep our cups- we got reusable cups with tops on which was really handy in case of speed bumps! The food was gorgeous especially the macaroons and cupcakes. I’m a vegetarian too so the variety of sandwiches in most afternoon teas can be disappointing but Brigits Bakery put on a yummy spread for me which I was impressed with.

You can follow Brigits Bakery on all socials at @brigitsbakery. 10/10 for the staff who really made the trip, our lovely waitress even sang happy birthday to two passengers and was really comical.

This was a gifted experience for this honest review.

Picking the right wedding dress

Picking the right wedding dress

In the words of Vanessa Jenkins “oh, how many times do you get married in this life? Twice? Three times? I wanna do it in style”. To most women the wedding dress is the most important dress you buy in a life time and on average women in the UK spend £1500 before they even have them altered so it’s important to get it right.

Before you go

  • Research styles online (hello Pinterest) and get a rough idea of things you like
  • Plan a price point and factor in alterations
  • Find a town where there’s a few shops to try! Then book slots to go try things on and make sure you start looking 12-18 months prior
  • Pick a group to go with ideally your mum and some bridesmaids. Be warned though that You mum might have strong or traditional opinions, and your bridesmaids will be thinking about how they’re going to look next to you. It’s better to take someone impartial who will give fashion advice you trust! I trust my sister and my Nan so I’m glad I kept it small
  • Make sure you bring nude underwear preferably multiway bra also!
  • Take accessories with you to that you potentially like and your shoes
  • Have a list of questions at the ready for the stylist for example shipping, alterations charges etc

At the appointment

  • Forget about sizes. Honestly dress designers are CRAZY when it comes down to sizing. I’m a high street 16/18 and I tried on dresses from a 10 right to a 22!!! (Yes 3 exclamation marks are needed). Don’t take the size to heart because it’s all rubbish to be frank
  • Trust the stylist. It’s ultimately their area of expertise! My dress is nothing like what I thought I wanted but I’m so happy. When the stylist brought it in a scrunched my nose up but it’s absolutely wonderful.
  • Trust your gut! Be firm! If you don’t like something about a dress then tell them. I had an older stylist in one bridal shop that was so pushy and she put me in a strapless dark ivory dress with tiny little floral lace the put a long sleeve white bolero over the top with large rose lace- it was dreadful and I told her that. She was so rude about my weight she made me cry and I said I wouldn’t buy a thing from her shop.
  • Take pictures! Of all angles. Good for reference!
  • Remember the time of year you’re getting married! Don’t get a long sleeve dress for an August wedding.
  • Sit down in the dress to see how comfy it is. You’re in it all day long so he prepared.
  • Don’t be afraid to haggle or ask for a discount. Everrrrr. I spend my life trying to get the price down on items or shop for the best bargain. I’m a mum on a budget. I got my hem alteration thrown in for free (around £125) because I asked. Don’t ask, don’t get.

After you said YES TO THE DRESS!

  • Once you made a purchase the keep a copy of your contract and receipt (it’s a big old purchase!)
  • Schedule alterations because you might need a few
  • Make sure you bring the correct underwear and shoes for your alterations

Most importantly enjoy every minute of wearing it! Also wedding dresses don’t have to be white ball gowns they can be pink sparkles, silky black, anything!

Xoxo

Fifi

Parenting with a hangover

Parenting with a hangover

First and foremost this blog post is a laugh and any comments from do-gooders will be deleted.

So the organised parent would of successfully secured an overnight trip to nanny and grandads without a problem but for the equally stupid ones amongst us who are juggling too much to get it together to sort an overnighter follow these rules;

  • You won’t be getting that lay over hun so give in. Netflix something not to loud (eg My Little Pony, Trolls, anything bright or noisy) but more something quieter! Try and remain there before they drive you to the brink of insanity wanting coco pops.

  • COFFEE (or whatever caffeine you enjoy most). Get some energy in you! Peppermint tea is actually really good for hangovers because it detoxes and helps your tummy.

  • Take it slowly. Not of that cleaning is important so don’t worry about.
  • Have something salty to replace the salt you lost the night before.

  • Shower is a no brainer to waken you up and feel like the alcohol isn’t on the skin. A good cleanse of the face and hot flannel go a long way.

  • Get out for some fresh air to let the kids burn some steam- they’ll drive you crazy being inside. The last thing you want to do when you feel rubbish is go outside but it’s a massive help. Faster to bedtime too!

  • Beige food for tea. Chuck it in the oven job so they don’t moan about what they have to eat and it’s bare minimum cooking. We all survived on a diet of turkey twislers, chips and spaghetti hoops so don’t feel guilty!

  • Deliveroo for you. No washing up, no cooking, easy peasy!

  • Once they are in bed (early hopefully) then a hair of the dog gin is well earned.
  • Remember to hang in there. It will be bedtime soon and if all else fails then someone from Bubble Babysitting App can help.

Mama/Papas you’ve got this and it was totally worth it.

Fifi xoxo

12 Netflix series you have to watch

12 Netflix series you have to watch

TV has been pretty boring lately so I’ve signed back up to Netflix so here’s what I’ve been chilling too (actually chilling, not funny business).

Jane the Virgin

Young Latina Janes life is turned upside down when she’s accidentally artificially inseminated (yes I know it does sound crazy doesn’t it?) The baby daddy? A hot hotel owner/millionaire. Super dramatic and romantic with a crime story line to mix it up. The dramatic music and narrator completes it!

Riverdale

An American teen drama based on the Archie Comic characters. My sister asked me once if I was watching it. I rolled my eyes thinking it was just teen rubbish but then I found out about Archie’s comics and the link between Sabrina and I had to watch. I mean I was in the Sabrina the teenager era (you know the OG one). I got seriously into the drama and crime line in there. Plus Cole Sprouse has got HOT. I’m not going to lie I binged watched all of it then I’m now waiting impatiently every fortnight for the next episode.

Gossip Girl

Yes I know another teen drama I hear you say but Gossip Girl is TV gold even not. Just as good as the first time around Gossip Girl follows the lives of the rich upper east siders whilst the blogger ‘Gossip Girl’ writes all about them causing a stir.

The Good Place

Not going to lie I binge watched this also. Put aside the fact the lead is played by the voice of Anna from Frozen (as a mum it threw me!) because it’s really gripping and dark. The series focuses on Eleanor Shellstrop, a woman who wakes up in the afterlife and is introduced by Michael to “The Good Place”, a highly selective heaven-like utopia he designed, as a reward for her righteous life. She realizes that she was sent there by mistake and must hide her morally imperfect behavior and try to become a better, more ethical person. I don’t normally enjoy fantasy things but this was really funny.

Chilling Adventures of Sabrina

Five words! Give it until episode five. I will admit it’s slow going but once you get there it’s truly fascinating. Such a pumped up and darker version of the original versions. Plus if you like Riverdale you GOT to watch it.

Great News

Had to have a light hearted comedy right? All about a Katie who lands a job at a news station the same time her over bearing mum gets a job as an unpaid intern. Romance and comedy so goes hand in! Also Nicole Richie stars in it too so that’s pretty cool.

Good Girls

Three suburban mums orchestrate a local grocery store heist to escape financial ruin. The storyline is great, actors play it well and can be very jaw dropping. Sometimes it is a bit of an eye roll in places and logistically doesn’t make sense in some of the crime but overall a good laugh to watch with wine.

Evil Genius

In August 2003, an attempted bank robbery in Erie, Pa., made news headlines across America when the robbery-gone-wrong turned into a public murder. The attempted robber was a pizza delivery driver who had a bomb locked around his neck. Known as the “pizza bomber” case, a manhunt ensued to find out who was responsible for the crime. Authorities eventually arrested Marjorie Diehl-Armstrong for the delivery man’s death. She was later convicted and sentenced to life in prison, but this four-part Netflix original documentary series sets out to prove that there’s more to the conspiracy and murder than what was previously thought. JAW. DROPPING. Best documentary since Making a Murderer.

The Let Down

Most relatable mum series. EVER. Set in Australia new mum Audrey joins a baby group where she struggles with motherhood. If Bad Moms was an Australian series.

Absolutely Fabulous

Such a classic and even better than the first time round. A show brilliant in its uncensored bad behaviour and satirical humour, this programme features Edina and Patsy, two hard-drinking, drug-taking, completely and outrageously selfish middle-aged women. Their cruel humour focuses on the hypocrisy of today’s society, much to the chagrin of Edina’s more moral and conservative daughter, Saffron.

White Gold

The story of double glazing salesmen set in 1980s Essex. Funny, lots of drama and Ed Westwick. Job done.

Shameless US

Like the UK version but all out American. I normally hate American versions of British comedies (*cough* Inbetweeners *cough*) but this one is really good with some good actors. The story line is similar but during series 2 it changes (keeping memorable bits) and we see what we really want with Steve and Fiona.

What’re you watching on Netflix?