Pardon the pun but this has got to be one of the toughest parenting milestones for me.
With out tootin’ our own trumpets but Delilah was a pretty easy going textbook baby. She slept through from a newborn (9pm until 9/11am!!!) maybe sometimes we would have a ‘rough’ night and she would wake for a feed at 5am. She crawled early, walked like a boss, speech is pretty good and picked up words fast (not always great though). I always dreaded weaning her but that was a piece of cake! Would eat everything! She then was about 15 months old and showing super good signs that she was ready to be potty trained so we gave it an easy slow paced go. She was 50% getting it right but 50% piddling herself because she had not developed enough to hold her wee and also I was nine months pregnant with a baby who was giving me SPD and causing me all sorts of false alarms (all four of them *eye roll*) so I put it off and put her back in nappies.
Since then we’ve had severally attempts that have failed. The last time I even said “SHE WONT EVER GO IN NAPPIES AGAIN!” and we still gave in but these times she wasn’t ready whatsoever because there was a lot of changes going on. So this time we looked out for the key signs;
- She was telling us when she had gone for a wee or poo
- Her eyes glazed over and she would get embarrassed if we saw her pushing one out
- She would ask to be changed
- She could take her leggings off herself
- She had a potty and she knew what it was for
How we started (again)
- We went full cold turkey. Pull ups just didn’t work for her, they may for others but it just wasn’t for her.
- We went to the shops and picked out pants with Peppa pig, unicorns, sparkles, flowers etc so she felt she had picked them.
- I put a potty in the toilet upstairs and downstairs and one in the lounge so they was always there.
- I was strict with Pat that THIS WAS IT! We had to stay strong and get through it! We both had a habit of giving in or if we was going to soft play for example saying “ohh it will just be easier to pop one on her”. That wasn’t the proper mindset to be in to get it right.
- Took a little potty out with me everywhere and always took her to the loo and got her to go regardless of where we was, what we was doing etc.
- At home I started getting her to try every 20 minutes and as times gone on I have lengthened it to every hour.
- I stopped asking her if she wanted to go for a wee and started telling her to go. Even though I was saying “Lilah do you need a wee?” she would just hear “Lilah are you wanting to stop having fun and playing to go for a wee?”.
- Who gives a sh*t what she wears at this point. If and its very small chance if it does happen these days but sometimes she does have accidents so I have a bag stocked with spares which more often or not are oldies or uncoordinated. If you think I give a sh*t if her clothes match whilst shes crying because shes shit herself up the back and i’m in a public toilet whilst trying to scrub her clean then you can think again.
If I can give you guys any advice it would be to go at your childs pace and go with how they feel and are ready for. Some are ready at 1, some aren’t until they are 3. I 100% felt majorly pressured to get her trained but it really doesn’t matter. It also doesn’t matter if they don’t get it right and have accidents because there is always wipes, clean pants, mops and gin in the world.