New year, same old me #2

New year, same old me #2

Guess who’s back? Back again! Sophie’s back.. tell a friend.

I’ve been slacking a bit on the whole blogging front and I apologise I’ve just been so busy with festive stuff and everyone has been bloody ill!!

However, I’ve taken the time to reflect the year and write out my New Years resolutions before this Christmas kicks off with a bang and I get too pissed.

1. To be me! Keeping it real this year and not caring so much what other think. Time is so precious and I have 3 people who love me for me. I love Instagram and social media I mean it’s a bit part of my life much but you can get sucked into it.

2. To plan a kick ass wedding! I need to get my arse into gear and get organised.

3. Work on my brand and make to time work on professional goals.

4. Become organised. Keep on top of cleaning stuff, pack lunches and Mum admin.

5. Stop wearing frumpy clothes. I hate the way I’ve become. I used to loves clothes! I feel so hopeless about clothing at the moment and want to get myself to be me.

6. For the love of all that is holy I need to lose my extra five chins I’ve acquired recently.

7. #goodvibesonly *cringes* but it’s the truth. For example I used to get wound up with one particular Dad who treated his children like absolute shite and spoke to them almost abusively trying to be funny probably but got away with it more compared to what a poorer father would of done, it drove me crazy. One day I thought I’m just to do something here…. I unfollowed him and all the accounts that bothered me. I forgot about them and was far happier for it.

8. Get Delilah to nursery on time. I’ve been a little tardy recently and I’m annoyed with my tardiness recently!!! It’s so hard to get two toddlers out on time.

9. To get the kids potty trained if it’s the last thing I do!

Hope everyone has a fabulous Christmas.

Lots of love,

Sophie, Paddy, Delilah + Indiana

Xxxxx

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Surviving Christmas on a budget

Surviving Christmas on a budget

This year we saved the date and finally booked our wedding (yay!) however it has left us a bit penniless and led us to trying to be thrifty this festive season, especially when we have 2 toddlers!

1- Write a strict list for who you are going to buy for and stick to it. We’ve said that we are only buying for children because as adults if we want something we get it! I spent £500 on Christmas presents for siblings, in laws etc and it was really silly.

2- Buy the cheap wrapping paper. I made the mistake of buying gloss high quality (high price) wrap last year only to find my daughter struggled to rip it open. It all ends up in the recycling anyway so be thrifty. Primark and Poundland are fabulous for affordable paper and have some amazing prints.

3- Decide your budget for each child! I saved £10 a month after Christmas last year until October and that gave me £50 for each child.

4- Search for toys in charity shops because I got lots of brand new things for my two. I also recommend comparing shop prices for discount codes to get items at the best price.

5- Go to family for Christmas dinner! This cuts a LOT of budget out. We’ve spend £0 on food for this Christmas because we are going to stay with family!

6- Ebay/facebay/boot fair all the old toys to make way for the new ones. This puts some pennies in the fund.

7- Make homemade gifts for adults so you’ve still got them token gifts. I made salt dough decorations with my 2 year old. We had so much fun and the grandparents will love them! (So have a go!).

8- Ignore the Facebook mums who guilt you because you’ve not done elf on the shelf or Christmas evening boxes. You can create family memories without spending tons of money on silly stuff. The greatest family memories are going for a walk in the evenings to look at Christmas lights with my parents.

Indiana’s room tour!

Indiana’s room tour!

In a recent insta story poll I put to you guys which room you wanted to see the most and Indiana was the most wanted. I’m by no means good at interior design and this isn’t what this blog was about but rather wanting to share my families space with everyone.

When we upsized to a 3 bedroom I was pregnant with Indi. I obviously wanted Delilah to have the bigger room because she was the eldest but now I do feel a bit guilty. Delilah has a room bigger than the lounge and poor Indi has a room that makes Harry Potters cupboard under the stairs look like a mansion.

Another issue was that rental properties are generally magnolia painted with brown cheap carpet so I decorated it as best I could with colour to celebrate his outrageous personality mixed with our retro type of style.

A shoe box room indeed!

Firstly his cot.

Delilah was still in hers so couldn’t be handed down (it was also pink, not that I associate colour with gender but this kid needed a break).

It was actually my cousins. It’s been used by other babies and finally made its round to Indiana. The cot bed is 11 years old, been used by 4 babies and is still in fabulous condition.

The bedding is from the Little Bird collection by Jools Oliver for Mothercare as well as the wall stickers.

Underneath is a slide out storage where I keep better…

As well as the stickers I’ve pinned up a few trinkets including a white papillon weave, a lion selfie and a little hanging sign that I got when I first found out he was a boy.

In a little cove a mini wardrobe was made with a shelf and pole.

I will be honest I rarely ever hang any of his clothes up because he’s barely even got them on hangers before we are putting a clean outfit on him because he is a total mucky pup!

But we do have a little chest of drawers in there which we got in Manchester and painted it in Annie Sloan chalk paint in old white.

On top we keep a little basket of night time emergencies.

On the window seal we only have a couple of little bits because we didn’t want it to be too cluttered looking. This silver money box was gifted to him by my Nan on his christening.

And lastly the light shade was a cheap £1 purchase from Wilko to match the blind we got for free!

And there you have it! His little space. One day I will buy a rug to go in here but for now the rest of the house needs doing.

Thanks for reading.

Fifi x

Marie Louise Maternity

Marie Louise Maternity

Recently whilst attending a Kit & Kin event I met Marie who was impossible to miss because she’s absolutely teeny and gorgeous! She also happens to be the sweetest human ever and senior midwife in Cornwall.

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After delivering a whole lot of beautiful babies she came to discover that many expectant parents arrive at hospital in labour with a lot of unnecessary and harmful products for their newborns, such as plastic chemical ridden nappies, fragranced baby wipes that strip delicate skin barriers, bleached maternity pads, harmful washes and lotion. The dad would then have to run out and leave his partner and their newborn to frantically try and shop for the right items whilst Marie (like other midwifes) would try to re-build mum’s confidence in that she hasn’t ‘got it wrong’ or ‘picked the wrong bits’.

According to Penelope Jagessar Chaffer, babies now have 30,000-50,000 chemicals in their bodies that our grandparents did not have! So after deciding that she couldn’t go on for another 40 years in this career still witnessing this problem she came up with a solution.

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Marie got to work designing and manufacturing a pre-packed changing bag with everything a pregnant woman needs for labour, birth and beyond. Thereafter it’s to be used as a changing bag and comes with a removable, washable organic liner, organic changing mat and stroller straps. Her whole life experience as a senior midwife has gone into making and packing this bag. The product is made truly with love, care and consideration.

Expectant parents no longer need to research for hours, shop for days or worry about what could have been forgotten. Instead they have a premium quality grab-and-go bag packed with premium quality products. All bags are made from environmentally friendly materials such as recycled leather and fluorocarbon free, organic cotton canvas. In fact MLM provide the worlds first ever fluorocarbon free baby changing bag. For parents MLM is “confidence you can carry”.

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Click here to order yours today: https://www.mlmaternity.com/mlm-shop/

 

Flying with emotional baggage 

Flying with emotional baggage 

So something I talk about regularly is my mental health. I’ve had anxiety since childhood and I’ve suffered with PND for a while now but something I don’t talk often about is my fear of flying! Following a bad experience 7 years ago I haven’t flown since. At the time I didn’t really think about flying until I grew up and started thinking about things like my honeymoon (I don’t think Pat would be too impressed with old Bognor!) or the kids first holiday! I can’t let that fear be shared onto them and I certainly can’t stop them from seeing the world. Pat and I pride ourselves on being knowledgable and accepting of different cultures but what good was it to the kids if they were stuck on Butlin’s holiday parks forever? 
I was very lucky as a child and my parents took me on some crazy travelling adventures and I want that for the kids. So a few months ago we booked tickets for us to go with my friends to Spain. It’s hardly anywhere trendy like Budapest or something but it’s a short flight and I shall be solo parenting so for me it’s brave! 
I’m not as nervous as I thought I would be. I’ve been side tracked with packing and organising things because I’ve never flown without my parents so I’m rather distracted! But I’m putting on a brave face for the kids because 2 hours of mad anxiety is worth it for a two week well needed get away. 
I shall drive everyone crazy with pictures but I don’t care ✌🏽

Love Sophie, Delilah and Indiana x

Talking to Teen Mom UK’s Amber Butler

Talking to Teen Mom UK’s Amber Butler

Hey Everyone!

So today I had the pleasure of interviewing MTV Teen Mom UK’s Amber Butler from Blackpool on being a contributor to Teen Mom UK and a mum to toddler Brooklyn. I was excited to find out what she has been up to since we last saw her on our screens!

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ME: Hi Amber, so how old were you when you fell pregnant with Brooklyn? How did you find it and how did you feel?

AMBER:  I was 16, I found out I was pregnant the day before my 17th birthday which is the 7th June, it was really shocking and surprising because I had so much going on at the time with work, attending college, living with my mum etc I didn’t know what to do. Then me and Ste (Brooklyn’s father) sat down and had a chat about everything and we decided to go through with the pregnancy as we thought we was ready, I’ve always been against abortions. I was then super excited with our choice!

ME: As a fellow teen mum it was scary finding out I was 18 and pregnant but more so that I had to tell my mum and dad. How did you tell your parents?

AMBER:  Well, telling my parents and other family members was the worst part. They thought I wasn’t ready so hearing that was hard but I told them I was. They were all very supportive in the end, they have helped me out so much when I was struggling financially and everything!

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ME: Brooklyn is such a lovely and unique name! What was your inspiration? Did you have any girls names you liked?

AMBER: I kinda liked the name Brooklyn because of the Beckhams! I’m proper into unshakable names. If I was to ever have a little girl she would be names Tiara-Rose as I thinks it’s such a cute sweet name!

ME: What attracted you to apply to be on Teen Mum UK 🇬🇧?

AMBER: To be honest I really just wanted to show motherhood and my parenting skills off to the world. I wanted to see how other people would judge my parenting as I thought I was useless and not doing it right but ever since everyone says that I’m doing brilliantly and I try my best being a single mum etc, which is super nice!

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ME: In the first season we saw the ups and downs of co-parenting. What advice would you give to other co-parents?

AMBER: The advice I would give to other parents who co-parent would be to just try your best, not everyone’s perfect but it takes time, you need to put your differences aside and look after your child as you want the best for them. There’s nothing more than just trying your best!

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ME: I hated going to baby groups after a few nasty experiences with bitchy judgmental older mum. Did you have any similar problems or any other judgement?

AMBER:  It’s horrible that, yes I have it when you see other mums looking at you weirdly and judging you but I ignore it. He’s my child at the end of the day and I’ll look after him the way I want, if he’s being naughty then yes he needs to know that he’s being naughty, if he’s being good then yes I’ll give him a cuddle, kiss, high five, teach him from right from wrong.

ME: What brands do you like to dress Brooklyn in? Where do you shop for his clothes etc.

AMBER:  I always try to make him look trendy, I know he’s not an accessory or a doll but I like to keep him looking nice. I usually shop in River Island kids, JD Sport, Instagram shops or Mamas and Papas!

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ME: What’s your favourite part of motherhood?

AMBER: My favourite part of motherhood is all of it! These past 2 years have been a roller coaster of enjoyment, stress, happiness  but I wouldn’t change it for the world! I have so much many things to look forward to such as teachings Brooklyn to ride a bike, potty training, progressing on his speech, swimming and so much more!

ME: And lastly what should we expect to see in the new season of Teen Mum UK? 🇬🇧

AMBER: In the new season of Teen Mom UK you will expect to see just ME. I’m as real as it gets! You will see mine and Stes relationship being so much more relaxed and calm which is nice! I also go on a few dates with a boy who I liked. And just being a mother to my beautiful son really!

 

You can see Amber, Ste and Brooklyn in Teen Mom UK on MTV starting season 2 on the 26th of July 8pm YAY!

Second baby changes everything (again?)

Second baby changes everything (again?)

Picture pre-Indiana Sophie and Paddy (well slept and calmer)

We said despite him being the second we would treat him equally, no second hand toys, no hand me down clothes, same rules apply…

Fast forward to 11 months old and i’m sat with my friend at baby group (Hi Samy!) whose son Theo is a week younger than Indie and happens to be her second also. I asked with their birthdays approaching what she was getting him for his birthday. It made me realise that I hadn’t so much had got an idea of his birthday presents let alone even purchased any. (FUCKKKKKKK!)

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This is Theo for reference

As prime example for Delilahs 1st Christmas we said “we won’t go crazy” and then proceeded to spent up there in the region of £300+ all which was not appreciated or possibly even open due to her having a chest infection and spending boxing day in hospital. Indie got the same treatment right?.. I think we possibly got him a cuddly toy if that.

So we’ve now selected a few bits for him but mainly will be putting our pennies towards our family holiday and his passport. We’ve asked friends and family for pocket money for him to get him an ice lolly or two.

I think when you have a second child it puts things in to perspective.

Do I regret buying designer clothes and fancy things for Delilah? absolutely not. But do I think there is better places for our money to be spent? yes. Being frugal is for the win. With age I have very much learnt the value of money and I know where to spend it a bit wiser. Especially when there are so many baby products you don’t actually need which I wish I knew when I had Delilah. I realllllly did not need to buy that many hand mits or spend £50 on getting a cake made for her 1st birthday party.

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So Indiana Michael Joshua Verrill?

This past 12 months has been the best and you’ve changed things for the better.

You drive us crazy with all your climbing.

Your smile makes our hearts melt.

Happy 1st birthday sunshine.

Love your tight arse parents.