New year, same old me #2

New year, same old me #2

Guess who’s back? Back again! Sophie’s back.. tell a friend.

I’ve been slacking a bit on the whole blogging front and I apologise I’ve just been so busy with festive stuff and everyone has been bloody ill!!

However, I’ve taken the time to reflect the year and write out my New Years resolutions before this Christmas kicks off with a bang and I get too pissed.

1. To be me! Keeping it real this year and not caring so much what other think. Time is so precious and I have 3 people who love me for me. I love Instagram and social media I mean it’s a bit part of my life much but you can get sucked into it.

2. To plan a kick ass wedding! I need to get my arse into gear and get organised.

3. Work on my brand and make to time work on professional goals.

4. Become organised. Keep on top of cleaning stuff, pack lunches and Mum admin.

5. Stop wearing frumpy clothes. I hate the way I’ve become. I used to loves clothes! I feel so hopeless about clothing at the moment and want to get myself to be me.

6. For the love of all that is holy I need to lose my extra five chins I’ve acquired recently.

7. #goodvibesonly *cringes* but it’s the truth. For example I used to get wound up with one particular Dad who treated his children like absolute shite and spoke to them almost abusively trying to be funny probably but got away with it more compared to what a poorer father would of done, it drove me crazy. One day I thought I’m just to do something here…. I unfollowed him and all the accounts that bothered me. I forgot about them and was far happier for it.

8. Get Delilah to nursery on time. I’ve been a little tardy recently and I’m annoyed with my tardiness recently!!! It’s so hard to get two toddlers out on time.

9. To get the kids potty trained if it’s the last thing I do!

Hope everyone has a fabulous Christmas.

Lots of love,

Sophie, Paddy, Delilah + Indiana

Xxxxx

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Surviving Christmas on a budget

Surviving Christmas on a budget

This year we saved the date and finally booked our wedding (yay!) however it has left us a bit penniless and led us to trying to be thrifty this festive season, especially when we have 2 toddlers!

1- Write a strict list for who you are going to buy for and stick to it. We’ve said that we are only buying for children because as adults if we want something we get it! I spent £500 on Christmas presents for siblings, in laws etc and it was really silly.

2- Buy the cheap wrapping paper. I made the mistake of buying gloss high quality (high price) wrap last year only to find my daughter struggled to rip it open. It all ends up in the recycling anyway so be thrifty. Primark and Poundland are fabulous for affordable paper and have some amazing prints.

3- Decide your budget for each child! I saved £10 a month after Christmas last year until October and that gave me £50 for each child.

4- Search for toys in charity shops because I got lots of brand new things for my two. I also recommend comparing shop prices for discount codes to get items at the best price.

5- Go to family for Christmas dinner! This cuts a LOT of budget out. We’ve spend £0 on food for this Christmas because we are going to stay with family!

6- Ebay/facebay/boot fair all the old toys to make way for the new ones. This puts some pennies in the fund.

7- Make homemade gifts for adults so you’ve still got them token gifts. I made salt dough decorations with my 2 year old. We had so much fun and the grandparents will love them! (So have a go!).

8- Ignore the Facebook mums who guilt you because you’ve not done elf on the shelf or Christmas evening boxes. You can create family memories without spending tons of money on silly stuff. The greatest family memories are going for a walk in the evenings to look at Christmas lights with my parents.

Indiana’s room tour!

Indiana’s room tour!

In a recent insta story poll I put to you guys which room you wanted to see the most and Indiana was the most wanted. I’m by no means good at interior design and this isn’t what this blog was about but rather wanting to share my families space with everyone.

When we upsized to a 3 bedroom I was pregnant with Indi. I obviously wanted Delilah to have the bigger room because she was the eldest but now I do feel a bit guilty. Delilah has a room bigger than the lounge and poor Indi has a room that makes Harry Potters cupboard under the stairs look like a mansion.

Another issue was that rental properties are generally magnolia painted with brown cheap carpet so I decorated it as best I could with colour to celebrate his outrageous personality mixed with our retro type of style.

A shoe box room indeed!

Firstly his cot.

Delilah was still in hers so couldn’t be handed down (it was also pink, not that I associate colour with gender but this kid needed a break).

It was actually my cousins. It’s been used by other babies and finally made its round to Indiana. The cot bed is 11 years old, been used by 4 babies and is still in fabulous condition.

The bedding is from the Little Bird collection by Jools Oliver for Mothercare as well as the wall stickers.

Underneath is a slide out storage where I keep better…

As well as the stickers I’ve pinned up a few trinkets including a white papillon weave, a lion selfie and a little hanging sign that I got when I first found out he was a boy.

In a little cove a mini wardrobe was made with a shelf and pole.

I will be honest I rarely ever hang any of his clothes up because he’s barely even got them on hangers before we are putting a clean outfit on him because he is a total mucky pup!

But we do have a little chest of drawers in there which we got in Manchester and painted it in Annie Sloan chalk paint in old white.

On top we keep a little basket of night time emergencies.

On the window seal we only have a couple of little bits because we didn’t want it to be too cluttered looking. This silver money box was gifted to him by my Nan on his christening.

And lastly the light shade was a cheap £1 purchase from Wilko to match the blind we got for free!

And there you have it! His little space. One day I will buy a rug to go in here but for now the rest of the house needs doing.

Thanks for reading.

Fifi x

Flying with emotional baggage 

Flying with emotional baggage 

So something I talk about regularly is my mental health. I’ve had anxiety since childhood and I’ve suffered with PND for a while now but something I don’t talk often about is my fear of flying! Following a bad experience 7 years ago I haven’t flown since. At the time I didn’t really think about flying until I grew up and started thinking about things like my honeymoon (I don’t think Pat would be too impressed with old Bognor!) or the kids first holiday! I can’t let that fear be shared onto them and I certainly can’t stop them from seeing the world. Pat and I pride ourselves on being knowledgable and accepting of different cultures but what good was it to the kids if they were stuck on Butlin’s holiday parks forever? 
I was very lucky as a child and my parents took me on some crazy travelling adventures and I want that for the kids. So a few months ago we booked tickets for us to go with my friends to Spain. It’s hardly anywhere trendy like Budapest or something but it’s a short flight and I shall be solo parenting so for me it’s brave! 
I’m not as nervous as I thought I would be. I’ve been side tracked with packing and organising things because I’ve never flown without my parents so I’m rather distracted! But I’m putting on a brave face for the kids because 2 hours of mad anxiety is worth it for a two week well needed get away. 
I shall drive everyone crazy with pictures but I don’t care ✌🏽

Love Sophie, Delilah and Indiana x

WHAT’S IN MY BAG

WHAT’S IN MY BAG

Being a mum of two under two involves a hell of a lot of lugging around. Who knew such tiny humans needed such a lot of well…STUFF. So I have delved into my nappy bag to show you what I carry!

I scrolled through tonnes of shops online and couldn’t find one I really loved at an affordable price but I did find this gym bag in Primark which I doubled up as a nappy bag. It also matches my black and soft pink Bugaboo Donkey perfectly! Plus it was only £12 (!!!)

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  1. Water wipes- Pre Delilah I would wear lovely sparkly stuff and not have a care in the world what was in my products until whilst pregnant I got a cosmetic allergy and now can only use hypoallergenic products (as only can Delilah). I never knew how much crap was in baby and make up wipes so I was lucky to discover Water Wipes. They are genius! Always carried for bums, messy faces and sticky fingers!
  2. Nappies- in each size, pretty self explanatory there.bag3
  3. Water bottle- I am currently dieting (and trying very hard to do so as well) so I need to drink 3 liters per day. It’s also exhausting and thirsty work trying to tame little ones and as I’m prone to fainting (swooning if Tom Hardy is reading the bedtime story) and have been anaemic is pretty important for me to stay hydrated.
  4. Juice cup- or “JUICEEE!” as Delilah more commonly yells. She only drinks water and on the odd occasion drinks a fruit juice if we are out but they can be pricey if you’re buying one every time you go out so I always carry one for her. She uses a no spill cup from MAM.
  5. Note pads- Trying to remember absolutely everything is impossible! I jot down blog post inspo, things we need (normally milk) and all them bits and bobs that I can’t remember because sleepless nights are killing my brain. I also adore stationary so there is always a notepad in my shopping basket. I like to pretend I’m organised!
  6. Toys and books- aka distraction and occupiers whilst I do things, shop etc,.
  7. Blanket- for nap time snuggles, Indie’s fave is a lovely woollen GAP blanket.
  8. iPad- for when Delilah has a FULL SCALE meltdown that will only be calmed down by Ben elf, Holly and that fucking rude little lady bird (if you know, you know). I used to look down my nose at parents that shoved electronics in front of their kids whilst they did things. I have come to learn that it isn’t selfish or mind numbing for children, sometimes a little down time is needed and it is perfectly acceptable for parents to want some bloody peace every now and again.bag2
  9. The ‘me pouch’- the little bag of essentials to keep me tip top during the day (deodrant, spray, hair bands, lippy, medication, tampons) I keep mine in a mere soeur bag, you can grab your’s on this link> https://meresoeur.com/products/girl-gang-pouch
  10. EMERGENCY CRY STOPPERS- Delilah doesn’t have a dummy during the day anymore and Indie vary rarely has one either but I take one JUST IN CASE.
  11. Purse- to pay for shit obvs. I used to carry a big mulberry that took up so much room. I have reluctantly opted for a coin purse to wedge my cash, card and boots card in.
  12. Snacks- Always carry some nibbles for if they are flagging a little. I prepare fresh snacks at home but when I’m on the go we go for Kiddylicious or Goodies!
  13. Sunglasses- because the sun glare coming off my phone when we are at the park is near on blinding.

What nappy bag do you have and what do you take out with you? Let me know so we can cry over never having any room for anything anymore and carrying a bag the size of a small house around. (At least our upper arm muscles are ripped)

 

Love Sophie, Delilah and Indiana x

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Date night

Date night

So I have decided to write about our baby free night out (thanks to Paddys parents, hallelujah) because the grounds for good parents is a good relationship. Whether you are married, in a relationship or co-parent it is important to work together, support one another and respect each other’s ways.

My partner in crime is Paddy. He’s the dad to my two beautiful children (thanks for helping make them!) Honesty time; when we first moved in together (I won’t flower it up) we really rubbed each other the wrong way! We would disagree about practically everything and to put it bluntly we acted more like friends who had a child together rather than a couple. Our relationship was going downhill very rapidly! The man I loved and wanted to spend my life with was struggling to even hold my hand or kiss me goodbye when he left for work. It then started to affect my time with Delilah because we weren’t supporting each others choices with her and the way we parented. Sometimes you need time to remember that you’re both in it together, and you need to show a team front for the kids.

Thanks to my father in law (Paul, you absolute hero) who drove all the way from Kent to Manchester, where we were living at the time, baby sat Delilah so we could go out for dinner. It was heaven and not because we got to eat food with both hands and actually have a drink without yelling “be careful Lilah!!” or “Do not touch mummies drink please!!” but we actually got time to have an adult conversation and remember why we fell in love in the first place.

Once we started communicating and we remembered we are a couple first, parents second, things became so much easier. When Delilah was playing up or refusing bed time we worked together instead of against each other! What I’m trying to say is that it’s okay to have baby free time and regain some of your sanity. It can actually be one of the most important things you need to do as a parent. I am ‘mummy’ and it’s a very important role which I carry with pride! However I am firstly ‘Sophie’ who like spending hours in lush and boots buying “crap we don’t need” (according to Pat), drinking gin and watching Keeping up with the Kardashians like its going out of fashion. To be good parents that relationship foundation has to be pretty solid, even if you aren’t together and you co-parent- be polite to each other, buy mother/fathers day presents for each other from the baby and go to their awards nights together! It’s far more easier, trust me.

Last night Paddy took me to the new Italian place in town and we had a great time – but things don’t have to be expensive to mean it’s a date. Some nights we put the kids early to bed, lay a blanket and cushions out whilst eating a chippy tea in front of a movie, sometimes we just go for a coffee or a drink down the pub but we always remember to be grateful for these little moments. I adore being a mum, being Sophie and being Paddy’s girl – it is possible to be all three at separate times and all at once. Never forget who you are and what you care about!

 

Love Sophie, Delilah and Indiana x

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