Flying with emotional baggageΒ 

Flying with emotional baggageΒ 

So something I talk about regularly is my mental health. I’ve had anxiety since childhood and I’ve suffered with PND for a while now but something I don’t talk often about is my fear of flying! Following a bad experience 7 years ago I haven’t flown since. At the time I didn’t really think about flying until I grew up and started thinking about things like my honeymoon (I don’t think Pat would be too impressed with old Bognor!) or the kids first holiday! I can’t let that fear be shared onto them and I certainly can’t stop them from seeing the world. Pat and I pride ourselves on being knowledgable and accepting of different cultures but what good was it to the kids if they were stuck on Butlin’s holiday parks forever? 
I was very lucky as a child and my parents took me on some crazy travelling adventures and I want that for the kids. So a few months ago we booked tickets for us to go with my friends to Spain. It’s hardly anywhere trendy like Budapest or something but it’s a short flight and I shall be solo parenting so for me it’s brave! 
I’m not as nervous as I thought I would be. I’ve been side tracked with packing and organising things because I’ve never flown without my parents so I’m rather distracted! But I’m putting on a brave face for the kids because 2 hours of mad anxiety is worth it for a two week well needed get away. 
I shall drive everyone crazy with pictures but I don’t care ✌🏽

Love Sophie, Delilah and Indiana x

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WHAT’S IN MY BAG

WHAT’S IN MY BAG

Being a mum of two under two involves a hell of a lot of lugging around. Who knew such tiny humans needed such a lot of well…STUFF. So I have delved into my nappy bag to show you what I carry!

I scrolled through tonnes of shops online and couldn’t find one I really loved at an affordable price but I did find this gym bag in Primark which I doubled up as a nappy bag. It also matches my black and soft pink Bugaboo Donkey perfectly! Plus it was only Β£12 (!!!)

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  1. Water wipes- Pre Delilah I would wear lovely sparkly stuff and not have a care in the world what was in my products until whilst pregnant I got a cosmetic allergy and now can only use hypoallergenic products (asΒ only can Delilah). I never knew how much crap was in baby and make up wipes so I was lucky to discover Water Wipes. They are genius! Always carried for bums, messy faces and sticky fingers!
  2. Nappies- in each size, pretty self explanatory there.bag3
  3. Water bottle- I am currently dieting (and trying very hard to do so as well) so I need to drink 3 liters per day. It’s also exhausting and thirsty work trying to tame little ones and as I’m prone to fainting (swooning if Tom Hardy is reading the bedtime story) and have been anaemic is pretty important for me to stay hydrated.
  4. Juice cup- or “JUICEEE!” as Delilah more commonly yells. She only drinks water and on the odd occasion drinks a fruit juice if we are out but they can be pricey if you’re buying one every time you go out so I always carry one for her. She uses a no spill cup from MAM.
  5. Note pads- Trying to remember absolutely everything is impossible! I jot down blog post inspo, things we need (normally milk) and all them bits and bobs that I can’t remember because sleepless nights are killing my brain. I also adore stationary so there is always a notepad in my shopping basket. I like to pretend I’m organised!
  6. Toys and books- aka distraction and occupiers whilst I do things, shop etc,.
  7. Blanket- for nap time snuggles, Indie’s fave is a lovely woollen GAP blanket.
  8. iPad- for when Delilah has a FULL SCALE meltdown that will only be calmed down by Ben elf, Holly and that fucking rude little lady bird (if you know, you know). I used to look down my nose at parents that shoved electronics in front of their kids whilst they did things. I have come to learn that it isn’t selfish or mind numbing for children, sometimes a little down time is needed and it is perfectly acceptable for parents to want some bloody peace every now and again.bag2
  9. The ‘me pouch’- the little bag of essentials to keep me tip top during the day (deodrant, spray, hair bands, lippy, medication, tampons) I keep mine in a mere soeur bag, you can grab your’s on this link>Β https://meresoeur.com/products/girl-gang-pouch
  10. EMERGENCY CRY STOPPERS- Delilah doesn’t have a dummy during the day anymore and Indie vary rarely has one either but I take one JUST IN CASE.
  11. Purse- to pay for shit obvs. I used to carry a big mulberry that took up so much room. I have reluctantly opted for a coin purse to wedge my cash, card and boots card in.
  12. Snacks- Always carry some nibbles for if they are flagging a little. I prepare fresh snacks at home but when I’m on the go we go for Kiddylicious or Goodies!
  13. Sunglasses- because the sun glare coming off my phone when we are at the park is near on blinding.

What nappy bag do you have and what do you take out with you? Let me know so we can cry over never having any room for anything anymore and carrying a bag the size of a small house around. (At least our upper arm muscles are ripped)

 

Love Sophie, Delilah and Indiana x

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Date night

Date night

So I have decided to write about our baby free night out (thanks to Paddys parents, hallelujah) because the grounds for good parents is a good relationship. Whether you are married, in a relationship or co-parent it is important to work together, support one another and respect each other’s ways.

My partner in crime is Paddy. He’s the dad to my two beautiful children (thanks for helping make them!) Honesty time; when we first moved in together (I won’t flower it up) we really rubbed each other the wrong way! We would disagree about practically everything and to put it bluntly we acted more like friends who had a child together rather than a couple. Our relationship was going downhill very rapidly! The man I loved and wanted to spend my life with was struggling to even hold my hand or kiss me goodbye when he left for work. It then started to affect my time with Delilah because we weren’t supporting each others choices with her and the way we parented. Sometimes you need time to remember that you’re both in it together, and you need to show a team front for the kids.

Thanks to my father in law (Paul, you absolute hero) who drove all the way from Kent to Manchester, where we were living at the time, baby sat Delilah so we could go out for dinner. It was heaven and not because we got to eat food with both hands and actually have a drink without yelling “be careful Lilah!!” or “Do not touch mummies drink please!!” but we actually got time to have an adult conversation and remember why we fell in love in the first place.

Once we started communicating and we remembered we are a couple first, parents second, things became so much easier. When Delilah was playing up or refusing bed time we worked together instead of against each other! What I’m trying to say is that it’s okay to have baby free time and regain some of your sanity. It can actually be one of the most important things you need to do as a parent. I am ‘mummy’ and it’s a very important role which I carry with pride! However I am firstly ‘Sophie’ who like spending hours in lush and boots buying “crap we don’t need” (according to Pat), drinking gin and watching Keeping up with the Kardashians like its going out of fashion. To be good parents that relationship foundation has to be pretty solid, even if you aren’t together and you co-parent- be polite to each other, buy mother/fathers day presents for each other from the baby and go to their awards nights together! It’s far more easier, trust me.

Last night Paddy took me to the new Italian place in town and we had a great time – but things don’t have to be expensive to mean it’s a date. Some nights we put the kids early to bed, lay a blanket and cushions out whilst eating a chippy tea in front of a movie, sometimes we just go for a coffee or a drink down the pub but we always remember to be grateful for these little moments. I adore being a mum, being Sophie and being Paddy’s girl – it is possible to be all three at separate times and all at once. Never forget who you are and what you care about!

 

Love Sophie, Delilah and Indiana x

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